Cheating – Is it the men or the women in the wrong?


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Finding it really hard to understand why some people seek to break up relationships. There have been multiple of times when I have been in a relationship with someone and a girl has actively tried to make the person cheat. It’s as if cheating is becoming an in thing or a type of challenge to people.

So many of my friends will say that men are the one in the wrong, that they think with their genitals instead of their heads. But I have been thinking that maybe it is females that may be in the wrong. Too many females seem to find it ok with flirting with a person who is in a relationship, stating that it’s not their problem, it’s the one cheating on their partner. Fair dos. BUT is this not creating a situation which possibly would not have been there if they didn’t try and seduce the person in a relationship?

I know it’s a bit of a ramble but just got me thinking… Maybe guys aren’t as bad as a lot of females thinks, maybe we have to look at ourselves and the vibes that we may be giving off as well. 

No one is perfect and temptation is a thing that is around us all.

I suppose it just depends how much we all are going to resist and hold back.

Are Reality TV And Dating Shows Changing Our Expectations Of Dating?


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I’ve noticed that recently there has been a major increase in dating shows on TV which make us Brits seem that we are purely interested in appearance, sex and “quick-dates”. 

What has happened to tradition? Romance? Love?!

It seems that our cultural expectations of dating is changing (based on the ideology that older generations have). No wonder that the rate in divorces is going up – a lot of people are marrying younger and speedier. 

I remember when couples used to be engaged for a while before getting hitched, nowadays it seems like engagement is a quick process which leads to a snappy marriage and a heartbreaking break up (in some cases not all).

Remember the idea of love and romance? Of gentlemen and holding yourself back before jumping into bed with your suitor? It seems like all of that is becoming a thing of the past… I wonder if it is just England or elsewhere in the world.

The advance of Reality TV like The Only Way is Essex and Geordie Shore is also making females seem a bit needy and dependant on men. We aren’t all, are we girls? 

So I have decided that I want to undertake a study on Dating Shows and whether or not they are actually hooking people up or only focussing on the giant market of singletons. What are your favourite dating shows at the moment? What do you think of them?

Are they bringing people together, or are they just making us more and more out of touch with romance?

Dating Shows

Does anyone on here watch any Dating Shows? Could be in the UK, could be outside of the UK. I don’t really mind :)



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Just wanted to know because I am doing a dissertation on it and would like to get an idea of how many people actually watch them. If you do please comment which ones and what you think about them. Thank you :)

Concentration and Procrastination

I’m finding it very hard to concentrate on doing work.

I know what I should be doing, but I can’t.

I know what I want to do but it’s not coming out on the page…

My mind is stuck in a block that it can’t escape.

All around me all I hear is noise…

Crunching and typing – pushing me into a void.

I wish that I could concentrate, I really do.

But all I keep on thinking about is me being with you.

The Freedom To Write Our Own Story

I haven’t used this in such a long time and I really feel that I should start writing again.

A lot has changed.

Some things have stayed the same….

But I guess that is the beauty of life. We don’t know what is going to happen, but we have the power to influence it, for the good or for the bad.

I have tried to de-stress my life by focussing on myself, but God knows that we are only mere humans and we do get lonely. 

People say that during university you are going to meet the person of your dreams, get married, have kids and live a perfect or an ideal life. But who really wants that?

After moving house to yet another student accommodation, I have realised that I only have one more year at university left and not much at all to show for it

I suppose that I have had my ups and downs and learnt a hell of a lot along the way, but I don’t feel satisfied in the respect that i’m going to just find a guy, settle down and be done with it. I still feel an urge to experience and learn more things, everyday is an opportunity to progress. I still need to find my positive energy inside and be free.

I want to be free, travel, experience different things and explore this beautiful world.


You see, now i’m not speaking for everyone but for myself, when I am centred in one place, sometimes it can feel like i’m in a bubble where I just want escape.

If the world was a puzzle, then I think after I graduate from my degree, then that is when i’m going to start filing in all the missing pieces.


Be Free.