Note to self: It’s your life

I found this blog post in my drafts from two years ago. I can’t remember what I was going through at the time of writing it, but when I found it, it really resonated with me.

Two years on and I still don’t really know what I want. There have been so many changes, so many people have come and gone in my life, so many new opportunities have been presented, but I still thought this was an essential note to self.


Note to self (5th March 2015)

Not everyone in life is going to like you.

Some people may seem like they are there for you. Then in times when you really need them, then they disappear.

You have the power to control your life, follow your dreams and also pick the people you associate yourself with.

There have been times in my life when I have made mistakes. There have been times when I have chosen to go down a certain path which my friends have disagreed with. There have also been times when I have had to drop a lot of people because of certain situations and experiences.

No one is perfect and everyone makes mistakes. That’s one of the most interesting aspects of life.

Forget the “ideal” and the expectations of what individuals should be like. We are all different, individual and unique.In some cases that means sacrificing some things.

I want to know how far you think you should go to chase your dreams and what sacrifices you have been faced with. How far would you go to get what you want from life?




This is the most beautiful thing

God & ManThat’s it. It’s over. A turn of the door, a lock of the key, the soft sound of something shutting and the quiet footsteps that follow it. They’re gone. They’re gone and they’re never coming back. You look around at an empty apartment. The kind of apartment you had always thought would belong…

via Read This The Day They Walk Away From You Forever — Thought Catalog

Fun adventures for adults in the UK

Being a young adult all I seem to want to do on the weekend is play. There’s so many fun places for kids to go to, but it’s hard to find things for adults.

I decided to go and study somewhere outside of London so I could see more of England. Even after uni, I’m still discovering things to do and places to experience fun activities all over the UK. I’m a big kid at heart and after all, all a kid wants to do is play.

London is a place where many come because there’s always something to do. There’s always going to be something to see, somewhere to eat, something new happening in the city, and the Internet makes it easy to find these things.

People are drawn to the buzz. They come for work and play and sometimes when they’ve had enough they go. But if you have lived in the city your whole life, it seems in some ways small. Although there always seems to be something to find and do, it can sometimes seem repetitive and recycled. Here are just a few of the recommendations from my adventure journeys (in and out of London) so far:


Tree-top Adventure 

Go Ape is the most prominent tree-top adventure that comes to mind. I experienced this for a friend’s hen do and it was definitely the most interesting hen do I’ve ever been to.

Being petite with an extreme fear of heights, I found it be a challenge. Even people who claimed to not be afraid of heights were quite taken aback with some of the obstacles you have to get through (skate-board zip).

Source: Go Ape Tribe


A word of advice: Go Ape is definitely fun, but it does take a lot of physical and mental energy. I would recommend it for all (even those who are scared of heights). I even managed to complete them all – in tears and shaking – but I did it. Would I do it again? You’d have to drag me.

There are of course other tree-top adventures and high-rope courses to experience. Wild Wood Adventure is one I’ve gone passed before but still have yet to try. I’m not sure if this one is mainly for kids, but the drop in the video does look a bit extreme.

Source: Wild Wood Adventure


White Water Rafting

White Water Rafting involves getting yourself into a wet suit and taking orders from the instructor on a raft while you learn to steer (and save) your team while battling rapids. It’s fast paced and takes strength and determination, but it’s a great laugh.

Some friends and I went to the White Water Rafting Centre in Lee Valley as a birthday surprise to try and attempt a group activity. We were put into a raft with two or three other groups and had to try and take it all seriously as the instructors yell orders to make sure you’re doing it right. It’s different and something that I think everyone has to try once at least. Definitely want to try real rapids next.

Source: LVWhiteWaterCentre

If you’re thinking it then yes, the water is very cold.


Bounce Below 

Bounce Below may be all the way in North Wales but it’s definitely worth the trip (we drove all the way there from London just to be able to bounce and slide around in a massive man-made cave). Located not too far from Snowden (we stayed in a hostel overlooking Mount Snowden), is Zip World where you can have the Bounce Below experience and also get to go zip-wiring too.

This video definitely convinced us:

Source: Alex Potts

Bounce Below again for me was quite a scare, but I loved it and would definitely do it again. Unfortunately I couldn’t man up to the cave zip wire as it looked too scary. I decided on the … zip wire thinking it wouldn’t be too bad, but boy it was high. Definitely one to visit! We loved it all.



Zorbing (Go Zorb)

Getting in to a massive plastic ball which looks like a hamster wheel and getting rolled down a hill? They even provide go pros… Do I really have to say anymore?!?!


And if you don’t want to just leave the kids at home, most of these adventures also do feature children’s versions. Fun for adults looking for a bit of adventure and also family friendly trips.


How to spot if you’re in an abusive relationship

It’s been a while since I’ve posted. About a year to be exact. So much has happened and changed since then, myself most likely included.

Flicking through the Internet for birthday present ideas and how to actually make things by hand, I discovered a cute site about a month ago. A site where you can sign up and just post stories, blog posts, advice, or whatever you want. Where you can create your own little mini series of editorial (um, so basically blogging?)

This post is the only one I managed to write on the app so far, but thought it would be worth sharing considering previous content posted here. I hope that this helps anyone in this situation.

How to spot if you’re in an abusive relationship

You would think that it would be easy to identify that you’re in an abusive relationship.

But sometimes abuse isn’t as obvious as you would think it is. Though some abuse is physical and leave signs, sometimes this isn’t how it starts.



Emotional abuse is one of the major signs that you’re in an abusive relationship.

This can be extremely difficult to spot and come to terms with, especially if your relationship is new and you’re still getting to know each other.


Jealousy and issues trusting are signs that your partner may have abusive traits.

When your partner starts to accuse you of cheating or lying, this paranoia is sometimes because they themselves are guilty of this and they are trying to control and manipulate you.


Turning you against your friends (even if he hasn’t met them yet) is a form of trying to separate you from the ones who care about you. If you’re friends aren’t in the picture then it’s easier for your partner to isolate you and for no one to interfere in your relationship.

This means that you will turn to him for advice that you would normally get from a friend and is another way of trying to emotionally manipulate you to trust him.


When you’re in a healthy relationship, you and your partner will have respect for one another and won’t want to hurt each other. Name-calling is another way of breaking down confidence and once you have isolated yourself, is a very detrimental form of abuse as it destroys confidence and makes you think you are what they say you are.


If your boyfriend calls you a “liar” or a “slut” or any other terms like “stupid” for long enough – you will start to believe it and can lead to you questioning if you are crazy or paranoid.


You know yourself so sometimes if you think that you aren’t being treated right then go with your gut.


Telling you what to wear, what to do, or how to act are signs of controlling behaviour.

Psychologically, partners who abuse are normally people who have controlling traits of behaviour.


In some cases, the abuser has become this way because they have their own inner demons and may have been abused in the past so have now taken on the role of the bully.

After exposure to pro-longed control, the victim will look to their partner for permission to do things and are scared of what will happen if they don’t.



Normally the victim of the abuse can’t even see what is happening to them.

You may have experienced this yourself personally or by seeing this happen to a friend.

The victim is blind to the abuse and starts to come up with excuses or lies for their partner to try and protect them from any scrutiny.


This can lead to falling out with friends if your friends are trying to break you apart.

Emotional trauma from domestic abuse can really alter the personality of the victim, resulting in paranoia, anxiety, depression, and other psychological factors.



As well as accusing you for things that you know that you didn’t do, it is common for abusive partners to blame you for things (especially things that they did wrong).

For example, if you confront your partner about cheating they could blame you for leading them to be unfaithful which results in the victim feeling as if they are worthless and everything is their fault.


The abuser will normally find it very hard to take responsibility for what they have done and to apologise for their wrongdoing.


If you feel like no matter how depressed you may be or look, your partner just doesn’t care or notice – this may be because they lack empathy. Empathy is when you are able to understand and feel compassion. When this is lacking then it is clear that the person doesn’t care enough.



These are only a few of the signs to help you spot if you’re in an abusive relationship.

When it starts to become physical or sexual abuse, although it seems more obvious about what is happening, the victim can usually be blind to this as well (because they are in denial).


If you or anyone you know are a victim of abuse it can be hard to get out of the relationship due to fears, but from experience it can be done.


Do you have any advice or essential points to add?

Is There Ever A Right Time?

When is the right time to travel?

This is the question that keeps popping up in my head everytime I think about what I want to do.

Although I haven’t started the career that I intend to do or have a partner or children tying me down – could this actually be the right time to do it?

People obviously go traveling for many different reasons. To work, to experience new cultures, to have fun… but it’s also normal to go traveling when you don’t really know what you want from life or when you want to find out more about who you are and what makes you tick as a person.

Working in sales in London,  I’m yet to actually start a career in media – but I do have experience and do dream of traveling and working in different environments, amongst different cultures to learn more – more about what I want and to test my own abilities.

You’re going so soon

Another line I keep hearing.

In reality, I don’t know when I’ll go. Planning for next year – but also keeping that bit of spontaneity. But really, Is there ever a right time for anything?

Maybe it’s best to just go with the flow and see what happens.

A Thought On Homelessness

“Could you please spare some change to buy some food?” a grey haired man rings in my ear on the platform of the underground as I bite into my dinner – a pastrami sandwich.

“I’m sorry, I don’t have anything” I reply, whilst contemplating if it is worth giving him the pennies at the bottom of my bag or giving up my meal. The thought that it is illegal to beg or to give money to beggars on the underground runs through my mind for a split second.

As he struggles over to others on the platform, stick in hand and vomit smeared on his blue T-shirt,  I look on and wish I could help.

The same thing crossed my mind last week as I sat in the beer garden for yet another leaving drink and saw an elderly grey haired woman about 60 rummaging through the bin. That time, I did give her the last of my change to which my colleague began a debate into if we should actually give money to “these people”.

“She proberly has a council house… why do you think she is in this situation?” His words rang through my ears and made my blood boil.

The reality of the situation is that there are homeless people everywhere – and you can’t help them all. Whilst some are genuine, he was right in saying that a lot of them do in fact have a roof over their head whilst other workers like us work all day to try and afford the rising rent prices in London.

Despite this, obviously the feeling of wanting to help everyone is present. During university I underwent a project to immerse myself with the homeless and learnt that a lot of people on the street are in a no win situation. They can’t get a job because they have no address and even if they try, they are stopped due to their state and appearance – causing them to take drugs to try and escape the reality of the situation.

Homelessness is a rising problem worldwide and many people don’t even bat an eyelid. But what if we could change the perception of homelessness and in fact benefits? Would it make a difference and what would it achieve?

Commuter Problems

Another day, another delay on the southbound northern line service. Traveling on a packed underground into London, whilst surrounded by people in suits with briefcases, lost in the Metro is not my idea of living.

On average, it takes me 40 minutes to get to work. That’s over an hour of traveling to and from work everyday – not to forget my trips to waste money at lunch.

There’s one thing that you can never gain back or stop or pause – and that’s time. We underestimate how precious time really is and the potential of what we could do if we had more of it.

If I had taken the earlier train, I wouldn’t have ever got stuck in this delay and ode already be in the office sipping on my cup of coffee. But I did take the later train and alas I’m late.

Point is, if you spend more time thinking about things like what you want from life, where you would want to live and what you would want to do with yourself – it’s not really wasting time cause you’re living. Cooped up in an office, doing something I don’t want to do and wasting time is not in my eyes.