Note to self: It’s your life

I found this blog post in my drafts from two years ago. I can’t remember what I was going through at the time of writing it, but when I found it, it really resonated with me.

Two years on and I still don’t really know what I want. There have been so many changes, so many people have come and gone in my life, so many new opportunities have been presented, but I still thought this was an essential note to self.

 

Note to self (5th March 2015)

Not everyone in life is going to like you.

Some people may seem like they are there for you. Then in times when you really need them, then they disappear.

You have the power to control your life, follow your dreams and also pick the people you associate yourself with.

There have been times in my life when I have made mistakes. There have been times when I have chosen to go down a certain path which my friends have disagreed with. There have also been times when I have had to drop a lot of people because of certain situations and experiences.

No one is perfect and everyone makes mistakes. That’s one of the most interesting aspects of life.

Forget the “ideal” and the expectations of what individuals should be like. We are all different, individual and unique.In some cases that means sacrificing some things.

I want to know how far you think you should go to chase your dreams and what sacrifices you have been faced with. How far would you go to get what you want from life?

 

 

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Fun adventures for adults in the UK

Being a young adult all I seem to want to do on the weekend is play. There’s so many fun places for kids to go to, but it’s hard to find things for adults.

I decided to go and study somewhere outside of London so I could see more of England. Even after uni, I’m still discovering things to do and places to experience fun activities all over the UK. I’m a big kid at heart and after all, all a kid wants to do is play.

London is a place where many come because there’s always something to do. There’s always going to be something to see, somewhere to eat, something new happening in the city, and the Internet makes it easy to find these things.

People are drawn to the buzz. They come for work and play and sometimes when they’ve had enough they go. But if you have lived in the city your whole life, it seems in some ways small. Although there always seems to be something to find and do, it can sometimes seem repetitive and recycled. Here are just a few of the recommendations from my adventure journeys (in and out of London) so far:

 

Tree-top Adventure 

Go Ape is the most prominent tree-top adventure that comes to mind. I experienced this for a friend’s hen do and it was definitely the most interesting hen do I’ve ever been to.

Being petite with an extreme fear of heights, I found it be a challenge. Even people who claimed to not be afraid of heights were quite taken aback with some of the obstacles you have to get through (skate-board zip).

Source: Go Ape Tribe

 

A word of advice: Go Ape is definitely fun, but it does take a lot of physical and mental energy. I would recommend it for all (even those who are scared of heights). I even managed to complete them all – in tears and shaking – but I did it. Would I do it again? You’d have to drag me.

There are of course other tree-top adventures and high-rope courses to experience. Wild Wood Adventure is one I’ve gone passed before but still have yet to try. I’m not sure if this one is mainly for kids, but the drop in the video does look a bit extreme.

Source: Wild Wood Adventure

 

White Water Rafting

White Water Rafting involves getting yourself into a wet suit and taking orders from the instructor on a raft while you learn to steer (and save) your team while battling rapids. It’s fast paced and takes strength and determination, but it’s a great laugh.

Some friends and I went to the White Water Rafting Centre in Lee Valley as a birthday surprise to try and attempt a group activity. We were put into a raft with two or three other groups and had to try and take it all seriously as the instructors yell orders to make sure you’re doing it right. It’s different and something that I think everyone has to try once at least. Definitely want to try real rapids next.

Source: LVWhiteWaterCentre

If you’re thinking it then yes, the water is very cold.

 

Bounce Below 

Bounce Below may be all the way in North Wales but it’s definitely worth the trip (we drove all the way there from London just to be able to bounce and slide around in a massive man-made cave). Located not too far from Snowden (we stayed in a hostel overlooking Mount Snowden), is Zip World where you can have the Bounce Below experience and also get to go zip-wiring too.

This video definitely convinced us:

Source: Alex Potts

Bounce Below again for me was quite a scare, but I loved it and would definitely do it again. Unfortunately I couldn’t man up to the cave zip wire as it looked too scary. I decided on the … zip wire thinking it wouldn’t be too bad, but boy it was high. Definitely one to visit! We loved it all.

 

 

Zorbing (Go Zorb)

Getting in to a massive plastic ball which looks like a hamster wheel and getting rolled down a hill? They even provide go pros… Do I really have to say anymore?!?!

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And if you don’t want to just leave the kids at home, most of these adventures also do feature children’s versions. Fun for adults looking for a bit of adventure and also family friendly trips.

 

A Thought On Homelessness

“Could you please spare some change to buy some food?” a grey haired man rings in my ear on the platform of the underground as I bite into my dinner – a pastrami sandwich.

“I’m sorry, I don’t have anything” I reply, whilst contemplating if it is worth giving him the pennies at the bottom of my bag or giving up my meal. The thought that it is illegal to beg or to give money to beggars on the underground runs through my mind for a split second.

As he struggles over to others on the platform, stick in hand and vomit smeared on his blue T-shirt,  I look on and wish I could help.

The same thing crossed my mind last week as I sat in the beer garden for yet another leaving drink and saw an elderly grey haired woman about 60 rummaging through the bin. That time, I did give her the last of my change to which my colleague began a debate into if we should actually give money to “these people”.

“She proberly has a council house… why do you think she is in this situation?” His words rang through my ears and made my blood boil.

The reality of the situation is that there are homeless people everywhere – and you can’t help them all. Whilst some are genuine, he was right in saying that a lot of them do in fact have a roof over their head whilst other workers like us work all day to try and afford the rising rent prices in London.

Despite this, obviously the feeling of wanting to help everyone is present. During university I underwent a project to immerse myself with the homeless and learnt that a lot of people on the street are in a no win situation. They can’t get a job because they have no address and even if they try, they are stopped due to their state and appearance – causing them to take drugs to try and escape the reality of the situation.

Homelessness is a rising problem worldwide and many people don’t even bat an eyelid. But what if we could change the perception of homelessness and in fact benefits? Would it make a difference and what would it achieve?

Commuter Problems

Another day, another delay on the southbound northern line service. Traveling on a packed underground into London, whilst surrounded by people in suits with briefcases, lost in the Metro is not my idea of living.

On average, it takes me 40 minutes to get to work. That’s over an hour of traveling to and from work everyday – not to forget my trips to waste money at lunch.

There’s one thing that you can never gain back or stop or pause – and that’s time. We underestimate how precious time really is and the potential of what we could do if we had more of it.

If I had taken the earlier train, I wouldn’t have ever got stuck in this delay and ode already be in the office sipping on my cup of coffee. But I did take the later train and alas I’m late.

Point is, if you spend more time thinking about things like what you want from life, where you would want to live and what you would want to do with yourself – it’s not really wasting time cause you’re living. Cooped up in an office, doing something I don’t want to do and wasting time is not in my eyes.

Rekindling Me – Going Back To Basics

I’m alive!!

I know I haven’t posted on my blog in ages – but a lot has been going on recently which has made me realise that I’m missing out on the things that I actually love and want to do. Since the new year, I’ve broken up with my boyfriend and found a job working in sales in central London. Next month, it would be a year since I graduated. That means that come January, it would be a year that I’ve been single. Yet throughout these months, all I’ve been doing is working to live and not actually LIVING. I started a new blog only to realise that the only way I can properly document my life, is to carry on with this one – mistakes and all. This post below was originally written on 13th May, entitled My Escape. I’m reposting it here as in a sense I am rekindling me.

Overlooking Mount Snowdon, Wales.
Overlooking Mount Snowdon, Wales.

I seem to have reached the age now where people just assume that what you are doing in life – work-wise – is what you actually aspired to do.

Growing up, the common question from family friends and relatives was: “So… what do you want to be when you’re older?”

For some, the answer comes naturally – but I guess for others, they’re just not quite sure.

The truth of the matter is – I wanted to do a lot of things. Yet, deep down, my true love was to write.

You’d find me sat under the table in our living room, scribbling on scraps of paper and trying to put a story together – normally about vampires and young romance (well, my idea of romance at the time anyway).

As I got older, unsure of what I really wanted, I pursued a course in Media Production and somehow made my way through university, securing a broad degree in Communication and Media.

Yet, the funny thing is – if someone asked me now what I really want to do, or be, I would most likely reply with: “Something creative, like PR, Marketing, Advertising – or all three.”

My first blog Simply Speech began as a way of getting out how I felt in a not so secretive but constructive way, after leaving a destructive relationship. However, as the years went on and my situations changed, I kind of left it behind and moved on.

The noise in everyday life sometimes makes it hard to focus on what you truly want – which brings me to the point of this blog post.

This blog aims to become a form of escape from the concrete boundaries of work and life; letting me have the freedom to write about what I like (or dislike) – be it film, travel, food (or anything else in between) – whilst finding my “self” along on the way.

Positive Thinking, Positive Outcomes – Work Life

So…

On Thursday I was offered the chance to start an internship in a boutique PR agency, specialising in international travel and b2b events!

Over the past few weeks of job seeking, I’ve been to some interviews in a few pretty amazing companies and also got to understand which industries really interest me. Life’s hard when you’re fresh out of uni and still haven’t found your niche.

So far, in the last 2 years I’ve gained experience in luxury property and travel, food and drink, tourism and events.

Internship or no internship, I don’t care. I’m getting first-hand experience working with a small and friendly team in a new and exciting niche.

One step at a time, picking up experiences along the way – on a journey to find my calling.

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In Two Days…

I could be the luckiest girl in the world.
(Well in my eyes that is.)

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It’s been a long week job-hunting since I left my job – and after going to loads of interviews, I actually managed to nail a particular one at somewhere I REALLY want to work.

Maybe trying to imagine I already have the job will work… I don’t care. All I know is, I’m focussing all of my positive energy in case it does.

Hopefully my next work update on Friday will be a positive one. Fingers crossed.